This is the age old question that haunts all single men.
It’s one of the first things a guy hears from his buddies when he announces his crazy, love clouded, intentions of proposal. (Even those that are happily married will jump on the back slapping, band wagon to enumerate all the ways life has changed since they exchanged vows).
Ironically enough, these lists mostly include all the ways they’ve had to “grow up”. But, to each of them it was the day they closed the books on their childhood dreams of becoming:
- A World Champion Grand Theft Auto player
- The Supreme King of the all-night, chili cheese dog eating contests
- The Record Holder of the most viewings of the Lord of The Rings Trilogy
- #1 Bachelor Extraordinaire with the best water bed, silk sheets and pizza box collection.
While these are admirable goals for a young man, they somehow may not be a priority as you start to build a life with your new wife.
So, do things change? Well, I guess the true answer is.. yes they do.
And, although not every marriage is the same, there will be things that require compromise, discussion and modification. After all, you are now sharing your life with someone else.
And therein lies challenge #1.
It’s not just all about you anymore.
Here’s my theory (and, I’m sure we’ll dive deeper into this in other posts… But I’m putting it out there for you to mull over).
When a Woman Gets Married She’s Thinking: “I’m so excited to share my life with someone… now that there are 2 of us, we’ll be able to get twice as much done!”
When a Man Gets Married He’s Thinking: “Cool, now that there’s someone else sharing the work, I’ll only have to do half as much!”
And, perhaps that’s where the disconnect begins…………
I am chuckling! What a delight to read and I hope you keep these posts coming. I shall let my husband take a peek this weekend. Even he will agree at your well timed humor. Well done.
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😀 😀 😀
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I absolutely LOVE those last lines – how true they are!
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I think the last line should read, “great now I have someone to do ALL my work for me” there is no sharing.
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I always heard it was:
When a Man Gets Married: “Cool, [censored] for the rest of my life!”
When a Woman Gets Married: “Cool, that’s the last [censored] I’ll have to give for the rest of my life!”
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This month we will be celebrating out 16yr anniversary. Here are some tips that have helped us:
http://moremilestones.blogspot.com/2010/06/love-and-marriage.html
Love your first post. Thanks so much for stopping by and sharing.
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Love it!! Great first post!
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Ah, yes, the things certainly do change! Love this post, and it’s a great first 🙂 Visiting you from “first post” linky!
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[…] one of us is a feminist. The Hubby Diaries, a blog I regularly read, made a great point of this in one of her posts: Men think that when there is two people in a relationship, they only have to do half the work. […]
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