One Lovely Blog Award

A great way to discover new blogs and to gain traffic to your blog, is to share backlinks with your readers.  A backlink is defined as a link from one website pointing back to your site , and what every blog needs is one-way non-reciprocal backlinks.   

The Hubby Diaries was fortunate to be selected by Timethief  at this time ~ this space  for the One Lovely Blog Award.  And today, I’m passing on the love.

Here are the rules of the “One Lovely Blog Award”:

1. Accept the award.
2. Post it (the image) on your blog together with the name of the person who has granted the award, and his or her blog link.
3. Pass the award to other blogs that you’ve newly discovered. Remember to contact the bloggers to let them know they have been chosen for this award.

I’d like to share this award with other bloggers I enjoy & friends of The Hubby Diaries.  Please take some to time to visit each other’s blogs and to keep this blog meme going.

 

IttyBittyCrazy:  The diary of a sane woman in an insane world… Oh, and her dogs.

 

The MidLife Gals:  Think Lucy and Ethel after those deadbeats, Fred and Ricky, Laverne and Shirley all grown up and haired over or The Smothers Brothers with bosoms.  We’re here to tell you that it’s okay to love/hate your elders, your teenage children, one of your siblings or the grocery store cashier.  Stop screaming into your pillows in the pantry…come OUT and join us in dialog about our profane, insane, comedic outlook on just about everything.

 

Crabby Old Fart:  A highly entertaining blog written by someone filled with endless ”life wisdom”.  He shares his perspective on, “ The problem with young people today…..  ”

 

Mommy Wants Vodka: A woman who writes from her “Casa De La Sausage” about life with her husband and 3 children.  It’s lighthearted entertainment at it’s best!

 

The Bloggess:  Like Mother Theresa.  Only Better.  If you haven’t already stumbled on this blog, I suggest you check it out.  This particular post had me laughing non-stop! I’m pretty sure it’s pronounced “Wesley-Ann”

 

Snooty Primadona: A sparkling outlook on life…. or not! 

 

What’s a Blog: One woman’s thoughts, observations & judgments 

 

Thanks to all of you for providing me with hours of reading entertainment!

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It’s The Effort That Counts…. Or Is It??

Hubby is not inherently lazy.  He’s not stupid.  He’s not incapable.  He’s not even intentionally absentminded (or at least I don’t think he is).   But he is, on many occasions, unable to complete full tasks.  And, since we are both intelligent, hardworking adults, I have to admit… this baffles the ever-living-crap out of me. 

Let me try to explain…..

• He carries his empty soda can into the kitchen and places it on the counter ABOVE the trash can
• He steps over his dirty clothes 50 times instead of bending down once to throw them in the laundry basket
• He takes the sponge to clean the kitchen counters after dinner but he doesn’t wipe down the table where we ate.
• He replaces the empty toothpaste but he doesn’t throw the old tube away.

It’s like he’s waiting for little fairies to appear overnight to magically complete everything he’s started OR.. perhaps….

He’s exercising that Man Rule I mentioned in an earlier post:   The one that outlines how marriage offers a shared life that requires a man to do only ½ the work.

The irony here is that chores are not shared 50/50.  They are literally split in half.  As in, I’ll do half of the chore and I’ll leave the rest for you to finish.

Sometimes it seems that he’s literally just run out of gas in the middle of doing something.  Or perhaps his mind has just drifted to football games or Guitar Hero or maybe it’s just shut off completely like a computer that all of a sudden goes into sleep mode.  The mind of a woman is always going, but a man can somehow just shut his off.  I’ve never understood it but it’s true.  Have you ever asked a man, “what are you thinking about” and he responds “nothing”…. Don’t badger him for a better answer… it’s likely true…he’s not thinking at all.  Men have the unique ability to actually shut off their mental faculties and go into a battery conservation, sleep mode, while they are awake.

So, knowing that I cannot get him out of sleep mode without “pressing any button”, I have no choice but to “wake him up” by pushing his buttons… and we all know where that usually winds up (which is a different topic altogether).  So for now, I’ll get back to his attempts at these chores..

 

Is he putting forth effort?   Yes.

Should he be applauded for helping?  Yes.

Should I want to kick him, every time I have to finish his chores?  Yes. (oh wait…. I meant No!)

Should I reward him with a treat every time he completes a task…  hmmmmm, I might be onto something here!?

 

More often than not,  it just falls under the category of…”if you want something done right, just do it yourself”.  And, who knows maybe that’s really what he was striving for all along!!!

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Do Things Change When You Get Married?

This is the age old question that haunts all single men. 

It’s one of the first things a guy hears from his buddies when he announces his crazy, love clouded, intentions of proposal.  (Even those that are happily married will jump on the back slapping, band wagon to enumerate all the ways life has changed since they exchanged vows).  

Ironically enough, these lists mostly include all the ways they’ve had to “grow up”.  But, to each of them it was the day they closed the books on their childhood dreams of becoming:

• A World Champion Grand Theft Auto player
• The Supreme King of the all-night, chili cheese dog eating contests
• The Record Holder of the most viewings of the Lord of The Rings Trilogy
• #1 Bachelor Extraordinaire with the best water bed, silk sheets and pizza box collection.

While these are admirable goals for a young man, they somehow may not be a priority as you start to build a life with your new wife. 

So, do things change?  Well, I guess the true answer is.. yes they do. 

And, although not every marriage is the same, there will be things that require compromise, discussion and modification.  After all, you are now sharing your life with someone else. 

And therein lies challenge #1. 

It’s not just all about you anymore.

 

Here’s my theory (and, I’m sure we’ll dive deeper into this in other posts… But I’m putting it out there for you to mull over).

When a Woman Gets Married She’s Thinking: “I’m so excited to share my life with someone… now that there are 2 of us, we’ll be able to get twice as much done!” 

When a Man Gets Married He’s Thinking:  “Cool, now that there’s someone else sharing the work, I’ll only have to do half as much!”

 

And, perhaps that’s where the disconnect begins…………

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