This is the age old question that haunts all single men.
It’s one of the first things a guy hears from his buddies when he announces his crazy, love clouded, intentions of proposal. (Even those that are happily married will jump on the back slapping, band wagon to enumerate all the ways life has changed since they exchanged vows).
Ironically enough, these lists mostly include all the ways they’ve had to “grow up”. But, to each of them it was the day they closed the books on their childhood dreams of becoming:
- A World Champion Grand Theft Auto player
- The Supreme King of the all-night, chili cheese dog eating contests
- The Record Holder of the most viewings of the Lord of The Rings Trilogy
- #1 Bachelor Extraordinaire with the best water bed, silk sheets and pizza box collection.
While these are admirable goals for a young man, they somehow may not be a priority as you start to build a life with your new wife.
So, do things change? Well, I guess the true answer is.. yes they do.
And, although not every marriage is the same, there will be things that require compromise, discussion and modification. After all, you are now sharing your life with someone else.
And therein lies challenge #1.
It’s not just all about you anymore.
Here’s my theory (and, I’m sure we’ll dive deeper into this in other posts… But I’m putting it out there for you to mull over).
When a Woman Gets Married She’s Thinking: “I’m so excited to share my life with someone… now that there are 2 of us, we’ll be able to get twice as much done!”
When a Man Gets Married He’s Thinking: “Cool, now that there’s someone else sharing the work, I’ll only have to do half as much!”
And, perhaps that’s where the disconnect begins…………