When I outlined some of my Marriage Truths, I mentioned the importance a Man Cave can play to help maintain a happy home.
- A Man Cave (also sometimes mantuary) is a male sanctuary, such as a specially equipped garage, spare bedroom, media room, den, or basement.
- A part of a home specifically reserved for adult male activities, such as drinking beer and watching TV; often a garage or den
- A place in a home that helps to ensure harmony between a wife & a husband.
(Source: Wife – The Hubby Diaries)
There are many, many days where hubby has retired to his man cave to do all those “man things” that I have no interest in.
- A Lord of The Rings marathon
- A Guitar Hero Jam Session
- Watching 4 football games at one time
- A showing of Black Hawk Down that’s so loud it shakes the house
- An up-close-and-personal afternoon with John Madden (the video game of course)
My hubby happens to fall into the category of incredibly lucky when it comes to man caves. He was actually chosen for a home renovation show called “Man Caves”. This is a show where a team of designers came to our house and literally made over our basement into a Media/Poker Haven for hubby.
Now is the moment when I should mention .. or perhaps grandstand and dance around the room with my tongue sticking out… and say that the only reason hubby even knew about this show was because of my addiction to home improvement TV. Which ironically enough, is one of the exact reasons he needs a man cave to “escape to” in the first place.
So I forced hubby to apply for his dream room and he was like a giddy, little school boy when he was chosen to get the “Ultimate Man Space”. A Vegas Style Poker room
I’ll share some pictures so you can see why hubby has considered moving into our basement full time. (Thank you Man Caves team.. you did an amazing job!)
Hubby jokes that this room is for MEN ONLY and, as much as he needs to put on a show for his buddies, he & I both know that it’s as much a room for me as it is for him. It allows him to get away from me and it allows me to send him to the basement. It also gives him a space to display all that absurd stuff that’s “important to him” (also known as stuff that I wish would disappear!)
Here’s where the harmony comes in…….
Most women are aware of the “stuff” a man brings into a marriage that has absolutely no place in an adult home. Many women try to relegate these items into a box that’s stuffed into a closet so no one will see it. An alternate solution is indeed a Man Cave. It’s a win/win. Hubby gets to display his crap (uh… ooops.. I mean important personal items) and I don’t have to look at any of it! Trust me ladies, as long as there are some cleanliness ground rules, a man cave can save the rest of your home!!
Here are few items that now have a home in hubby’s man cave:
The Video Game System — along with all the controllers (there’s no way that the Guitar Hero drum set & guitars would ever “live” in my living room)
His Dancing Hamster – you can read more about this here: “Here Comes the Dancing Hamster”
Sports Memorabilia – autographed pictures, mini football helmets and other misc crap (uh.. I mean, meaningful personal items)
A Couple of Old Toy Cars – apparently collectible & sentimental??
Some Odd Figurines — can you call a ‘man” collectible a “figurine”.. I may have just broken a man rule??
Crumpled Snack Wrappers & Empty Beer Bottles – (oh wait… those items don’t belong there….. Or do they??? At least they’re not on my coffee table!)
So, as you can see, providing hubby with a room all his own, has helped to ensure harmony at my house! And, hubby has learned that if he wants to bring something into the house that is ugly, stupid or childish… there’s no question where it will wind up. AND…… even after creating a place where I can banish dumb items, and a place where I can hide stuff from visitors.. there is still one rule that prevails.
Hubby thinks this rule is that NO GIRLS ARE ALLOWED in the Man Cave.
But.. the real rule is…. I STILL ALWAYS HAVE VETO POWER!
If the item is TOO dumb, or TOO ridiculous.. it still may not be allowed in the house.
And, since I have to pass thru the Man Cave to get to the laundry room… hubby has to live by this rule or he may never, ever have clean clothes again! (Again — I think this is a win/win…)
Either that OR he should learn to multi-task while he’s in the man cave and he should do his own laundry… But, since we know Men are Like Toasters, I doubt this will ever happen.
Neverending veto power for me… there’s no better way to ensure harmony! 🙂