I can remember when hubby used to leave me cute little notes… they used words like amazing, magical, wonderful. They came via post-its hidden in my work calendar or maybe via a mid-day text message.
It was always a tiny gesture but, to me… it was awesome. Just goes to show that a tiny bit of effort really can go a long way. What hubby didn’t realize was that one of these notes could often replace say….. cleaning up the sink after he shaves. This trick might only work on occasion, but, assuming I’m having a good day, a cute romantic gesture (one that only takes him a second) could stop me from grumbling as I clean up the crumbs he left on the counter.
The more cute gestures, the less irritated I’d be at his little housekeeping transgressions. This of course is a fine line, that most men have not learned to walk. It’s a balancing act that requires the utmost of thought and care. Because: It does NOT mean you can buy me a card and expect me to excuse the fact that you never lift a finger in the house. SO MEN — just for the record, that’s not how this works…
After all, ladies… all we really want is to feel loved & appreciated right?? Well, that and a partner who does his share of chores, and takes us out for nice dinners, and rubs our feet, and listens to us, and cooks for us and.. and, .. and……..(hehe.. ok, maybe we’re not that simple… but anyway….)
Back to Hubby.
He truly was a smart man. He learned how to make me feel great and, I think deep down, he realized that this was a good way to quell some of my frustrations. So, every few days I’d find a loving note…. Until … (insert ominous music tones here…). He lost his mind. Ok, maybe he didn’t lose his mind, but, ever-so-slowly, the notes began to change.
And as the years passed, the notes started to look more like this:
As you can see, the tenor of these notes is slightly different. He still loves me but these notes are not tucked away in cute places and there aren’t any fluffy, happy words. These notes are found in plain site, on the kitchen counter, scrawled before heading to work. And, well, they just don’t seem to have the same ring to them.
Has hubby forgotten this delicate balancing act? Does he not realize that these notes may actually have the capability of squashing some of the “nagging”? No, not all of the “nagging”… they’re not brainwashing, magical notes. But, I bet at least on that day, I’d be less apt to ask him why he can’t seem to remember to put his dirty socks into the hamper where they belong.
What’s the morale of my story today?? Well, it’s all about the power of a well timed loved note…
If this power is used for Good rather than Evil.. there would be a lot more happy, romantic couples in the world. AND MEN – you can read this as LESS NAGGING!
(Hubby…. I hope you’re reading this…. Love you!! 🙂 )
Ladies feel free to share this post with your man…maybe even subtly leave a copy around the house? Who knows what cute little expression of love you may find tucked into your purse tomorrow!