I fondly remember my courtship days with hubby.
We chatted for hours on the phone, he took me on well planned, thoughtful dates, he bought me a book on star gazing, we drank wine in the park. He did all the things that a man should do when trying to win the heart of a (ahem… cough, cough) young lady.
When you think about it, it’s incredible how much things can change when you’ve “sealed the deal” with marriage. Now, I’m certain that I’m generalizing, and that many couples continue to have overflowing traditional romance in their lives. But today, I’m just sharing the realities of MY life. And, don’t misunderstand, I’m not exactly complaining… I’m just thinking about how much your definition of romance can change as you build a life with someone.
As you may know, last week hubby and I took a much needed vacation. As we were walking to dinner one night, in the midst of tropical paradise, I mentioned to him that I wished we lived more romantic lives. I was of course, influenced by our current surroundings…the star filled night, the sounds of the ocean, the light shimmering off the pools.
And, you know what hubby said??
You may want to sit down for this…. His, loving, romantic response may just knock your socks off
“What more romance could you want?? I’m holding your hand aren’t I?”
Ahhhhh how I love him.
He still knows exactly how to give me the warm fuzzies! And, while I’m not undervaluing the importance of holding hands, somehow it alone does not necessarily equate to romance in my mind. Men! Sometimes they just don’t get it, do they??
So, I got to thinking about how our lives have evolved over the years… or maybe just how our definition of romance has changed.
- When we lit candles all around our bedroom
- When he remembered my favorite color
- When we sat for hours, snuggling under the stars
- When he surprised me with an impromptu picnic in the park
- Remembering to put his dirty socks in the hamper
- Washing the dishes
- Taking out the trash without being asked
- Cleaning up the stray toothpaste from the bathroom sink
I realized that I really do have a life filled with romance… it’s just not necessarily the romance of our early relationship.
It’s the romance that ensures that I don’t sit down to an empty roll of toilet paper and the romance that pays me an extra buck or two when I empty his pockets to do laundry!
And… I have to admit that this sort of “romance” is important to our lives as well.. but let’s be honest…one day, after he takes the trash out, I’d love a bottle of wine, a blanket and a back massage at the beach. 🙂
What do you do to keep that spark in your relationship?