I sure have missed you all.
Every day over the past 2 weeks, as I’m driving my 1 ½ hours to my office I say to myself… “self, wouldn’t you rather be blogging today?” and I get a resounding “YES!” as a response. But alas, blogging doesn’t pay our bills. (and yes, I do actually talk to myself out loud while I’m in my car – I’m one of those people). The good news about talking to yourself in your car is that, in this day & age with all the cell phone technology, headsets, bluetooth etc. people can’t tell if I’m talking on my phone or talking to myself. Score one for me. I can be as crazy as I want while I’m in my car.
Before I leave the house I also think about how I want to poke hubby or douse him with a bucket of water before I start my commute.. Since he of course, is still all snuggled in bed with at least another hour to sleep…which will of course be followed by a leisurely shower and a 6 minute commute…. Bastard!
So last week I mentioned that, with the insane work hours I’ve been keeping, hubby has had an awful lot of free time. I’m not exactly sure how he’s been spending this time but I did have to break his rule of “Absolutely No To-Do list in the evenings”. Without a “To-Do list” we wouldn’t have any toothpaste, our dog wouldn’t have any food, and I’d probably be one miserable girl since I needed him to refill my prescription for allergy medicine. As I mentioned in my last post, I’ve been prepping for work meetings that occurred this week. Many of these meetings were followed by dinners with out of town work colleagues. Which means I was leaving our house at around 7:00am and returning after 10:00pm. And, I can assure you that if it wasn’t on “the list” it didn’t get done.
Here are just a few things that “didn’t get done”
- There’s a huge pile of mail on the counter – if you’ve been a long time reader, you know hubby doesn’t open mail
- There are TWO smoke detectors sitting on my kitchen counter (for almost 2 weeks) in need of battery changes
- There’s a huge pile of clean & folded pool towels on my kitchen table – this is where I left them after I washed them since they need to go into a bin outside and the day I did laundry is was raining (apparently this is their new home)
- There’s a pile of shoe boxes & shopping bags on the floor in our bedroom from some shopping hubby did LAST weekend.
It’s fairly obvious to me that if it doesn’t fall into the urgent category (ie: no way to brush his teeth), hubby is completely oblivious to getting it done. He has an incredible knack for ignoring projects around him that either a) aren’t really of interest to him or b) lack the necessity for immediate action. And of course our definitions of “requires immediate action” are pretty disparate (aka.. not even in the same universe). Yes, this is yet another example of the male ability to employ Selective Vision.
Take for instance Exhibit A:
This month we celebrated the 1 year anniversary of buying a new fridge. This anniversary also represented the 1 year mark of looking at a gaping hole above said refrigerator. Yes folks, our kitchen (where we regularly entertain) has looked like this for 1 full year. And you know what?? I don’t think hubby even sees this hole anymore. If he does, he sure doesn’t mention it. In case you’re wondering why the heck we’d leave it like this for a full year, I’ll try to explain (although, I’m not 100% sure I understand it myself).
We have custom cabinetry in our kitchen. It was all here when we moved in and to be totally honest we don’t really love it. So, when we went shopping for a new fridge and realized that standard size fridges didn’t fit into the existing opening that held our old fridge, we had to remove the cabinet doors & bottom above the fridge. We debated on having new custom doors made. We debated on a full kitchen remodel to get cabinets we like. We debated on making it into some sort of wine rack. We debated on timing. We debated on debating. And then all of a sudden, one day, we just stopped talking about it. We hadn’t come to a decision. We hadn’t put together a plan. We just gave up discussing it. And so, here we are a year later without any sort of a plan.
Every day I look at that opening and sigh…. Every day hubby looks past that opening and opens the fridge. Oftentimes I wonder how come it doesn’t really seem to bother him. But then I remember that a) it’s really not of interest to him and b) a hole above the fridge apparently doesn’t need immediate attention. (ie: his day goes on just fine without a new cabinet).
So, here I sit… with a custom hole above my fridge just wondering if it will ever hit hubby’s radar……..
Anyone want to take bets???
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