In honor of our wedding anniversary I thought I’d take a moment today to reflect on how my dear hubby has changed over the past 7 years.
Earlier this week I mentioned my very first 1st post on this site, a post that addressed the question of “Do Things Change When You Get Married”.
I’m of the opinion that everyone changes as they go through life. So, to expect that nothing will change in your relationship once you are married is just pure insanity. Once you get married, the stakes are higher, and expectations are greater because everything you do, now 100% impacts another person.
A while back I made reference to bursting hubby’s bubble. He lived a happy, ignorant existence and I forced him to explore new things and expand his horizons. I think this may indeed be a life long battle for me (he is a stubborn one – dang it!) But, every year I make a teeny, tiny bit of progress and I will never give up. He’s truly come a long way over the years and today I’d like to pay tribute to the progress he’s made and to celebrate how far he’s come….
- When I met hubby he was a smoker…. Not only did he quit smoking but now, he’s even a little bit afraid of the casual cigar night with his buddies (My stink-free bed is celebrating!)
- When I met hubby he tucked Every. Single. Shirt. into his pants (and I do mean every shirt… casual camp shirts, sweatshirts .. you name it!). Today he’s learned to stylishly let it all hang loose (no, dirty pun intended 🙂 )
- When I met hubby, the only tool he knew how to use was the telephone (to call someone to come fix things)… now he has his own tool kit and has actually acquired a “fix-it-myself” mentality
- When I met hubby he knew only 2 colors: Black & White. Now, I’ve actually heard him use the words “mustard” and “olive” to describe colors (sorry hon, I’m sure you didn’t want your friends knowing this!)
- When I met hubby he didn’t know a damn thing about home decorating and now he knows the difference between a sconce and a finial. (I didn’t say he CARES… but he does know!)
- When I met hubby he was living at his mom’s house.. where she cleaned up after him, fed him and did his laundry…. Now, he cleans up, no wait, I do that……he cooks…. hmmm, wait, I do that too.. and oh hell, he doesn’t even know where the laundry room is…. Scratch this one completely…. I guess I got a bit carried away………….
- When I met hubby he probably opened his own mail & paid his own bills… and now, well heck, he doesn’t do any of this either… I guess maybe this one’s not a great example??!!
- When I met hubby he’d eat an entire box of cookies himself and now…. Well, he always leaves one in the box for me… now that’s love (or laziness – but I’ll probably never know for sure!)
As I’ve mentioned before… it’s important to celebrate small successes. And, the fact that hubby mows the lawn (even if it’s only on “lawn mowing day”) and does half the chores (meaning 50% of a given task not necessarily 50% of the total tasks) is a step in the right direction….. right??!!
After all, I’ve dedicated myself to a lifetime of hubby training.. and I’m only 7 years in. I’m sure hubby would be the first to tell you that “challenging” me is the key to a happy marriage. Because otherwise, in his demented mind, I’d be “bored” if he made my life too easy. Gee… thanks for always thinking of me hubby!
Happy Anniversary Babe!
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