The household version of this philosophical riddle might be:
If you complete a task, and no one is around to see it, does it count?
I guess this is the question at the forefront of hubby’s mind. And, I think I’ve discovered his answer.
Drum Roll Please………….
A Resounding NO! (unless of course, you leave some sort of evidence that you’ve done something………..)
Even after knowing this manly philosophy, I guess I still just don’t get it. And that folks, is why I write a blog! 🙂
I’ve spoken before about hubby’s inability to complete full tasks. It’s the ever-elusive completion stage of most projects that’s the source of much of my marital
frustration, confusion, head-shaking, WTF moments
If hubby makes the effort to start something, you’d like to think that he’d make the effort to finish it but…. You’d not only be wrong but you’d be fighting a losing battle.
Just a snapshot of some examples:
- Hubby spills food on the counter. He grabs a paper towel to wipe it up. Hours later, said paper towel is lying crumbled on the counter.
- Our toilet needs to be plunged. Hubby grabs the plunger (it resides hidden in the bathroom) and unclogs the toilet. Days later, said plunger is still sitting right next to the toilet, in plain sight.
- We have a leak in our laundry room. Hubby changes out our condensation pump from under the furnace. Months later, all tools used for said project remain on the floor, in front of the furnace, in the laundry room.
As you can see, hubby is not totally useless. He will (at times and after much nagging) take on a few projects or clean up after himself. The big questions are:
- How long will it take him to start a task? And……
- How long will it take for the entire project to be completed and all related items put away?
On the first question the answer is quite possibly — FOREVER.
On the second question the answer is almost certainly — FOREVER (although, I think I need to take some sort of responsibility here since I seem to have conditioned him to delay completion just long enough so that I’ll finish for him — guess who put away the plunger & the tools in the laundry room??).
So, based on this philosophy, I think I’ve had an epiphany this week. Hubby obviously wants credit for doing tasks and the only way to solicit this credit is to leave evidence that he’s completed each task. After all, in a relationship, each person really just wants to feel appreciated…. Right?!
And, for a split second, I thought about using the same method to solicit credit for all the tasks I do at home. But then I realized, that all I’d accomplish would be to leave clutter all over the house that hubby would ignore, walk past and navigate around. And rather than earn myself credit, I’d just live in a dirty house filled with “unseen” evidence.
So, maybe next time I find an incomplete project from hubby, I’ll gather up all his evidence and put it into an “I appreciate you” pile. Either that or I’ll find a way to use each item in a special way to say thank you for doing a household task…..cause nothing says “I appreciate you” more than a plunger shoved up your…… 🙂