As you may have assumed there’s not all that much grey area with hubby. He either likes something or he doesn’t. Now, the interesting thing about this is that his feelings can change in the blink of an eye or from week to week but, there’s rarely a day where he sort of, kind of, likes something. Today he loves it and it’s the best thing ever and tomorrow he hates it and it’s not worth the lint in his pocket.
The confusing part of this dramatic swing is that you never know when the pendulum is about to reverse. And, if you don’t move quickly enough, it could knock you upside the head as he transitions from not eating fish to wanting it every single night for dinner.
I’ve mentioned before that living with hubby is like living a life in extremes. This was most notable when he decided mid vacation that he no longer wanted to be on vacation. Yeah, there’s that damn pendulum…. it almost knocked me out as he declared that he wanted to fly home from Belize (you can read about this HERE).
These crazy-ass tendencies of deciding one day that something is great when yesterday he hated it, is, in all likelihood, eventually going to send me to the looney bin.
Anyhow… I assume you’re waiting for my story… So here goes……….
I am very well traveled. I’ve backpacked through 19 different countries in Europe, I’ve held a job as a National Sales Manager where I traveled to almost every major city in the US. I also have a pretty damn good understanding of who hubby is and what he might like. I’ve been successful suggesting new food items, I’ve introduced him to some great new clothes and I’ve opened him up to a whole new world of home decor. So needless to say, I feel that I have good enough resume to suggest trips for hubby & myself.
A few years ago I started talking about the Grand Canyon and what a great trip it would be for us. I pitched it to hubby as an amazingly, breathtaking place with a whole assortment of things for us to do. Hubby adamantly declared that he had no desire to “waste a vacation week” to see “a big hole in the ground”. Needless to say I persisted, and when we conveniently had to travel to a friends wedding in Phoenix, it was the perfect opportunity to tack on the Grand Canyon. And so, we traveled through Sedona & the Grand Canyon and hubby LOVED it. To this day, he even talks about returning and spending additional time there.
Fast forward a bit….
Another destination that’s high on my travel list for us is Northern California. I envision us spending time taking in Napa Valley, drinking copious amounts of wine, driving along the coastline, and frolicking hand-in-hand through the vineyards (ok, maybe I went too far with that one). Hubby’s response to this trip suggestion: “I hate California”. Now, I have no idea how someone could “hate California”. I find it incredibly hard to believe that you could hate an entire state. I could imagine someone saying “I hate the smog in LA” or “I hate the over-indulgence of Hollywood” or maybe even the “artificialness of Southern Cal”. But to declare your outright hatred for an entire state just makes no sense to me. But hubby, who traveled to San Diego once and didn’t have a great time, has determined that all of California sucks.
So, as I continue to fight this battle, we hear that hubby’s cousin will be getting married this year in Northern Cal… and I think to myself… “HOORAY! We’re going to Napa!”. Hubby’s actually on board with the idea of extending the trip and I start Googling away to plan the details of our wine country excursion. And then….. the Save-The-Date card for the wedding arrives. And BAM! They’ve changed their mind and they are getting married in Upstate NY. So, in the blink of an eye, my Napa dream swirls itself down the drain. Now, the closest I can get to sipping wine and frolicking in vineyards is stepping over hubby’s discarded grape stems as I blog about my unfulfilled vacation dreams
Although, I don’t give up that easily and this battle is not over.
Some day I’ll be nosing and tasting the tannins of fine wine and I’ll sit alongside the California coastline. And, how much do you want to bet hubby comes back saying he absolutely LOVED it????