Hubby is not inherently lazy. He’s not stupid. He’s not incapable. He’s not even intentionally absentminded (or at least I don’t think he is). But he is, on many occasions, unable to complete full tasks. And, since we are both intelligent, hardworking adults, I have to admit… this baffles the ever-living-crap out of me.
Let me try to explain…..
- He carries his empty soda can into the kitchen and places it on the counter ABOVE the trash can
- He steps over his dirty clothes 50 times instead of bending down once to throw them in the laundry basket
- He takes the sponge to clean the kitchen counters after dinner but he doesn’t wipe down the table where we ate.
- He replaces the empty toothpaste but he doesn’t throw the old tube away.
It’s like he’s waiting for little fairies to appear overnight to magically complete everything he’s started OR.. perhaps….
He’s exercising that Man Rule I mentioned in an earlier post: The one that outlines how marriage offers a shared life that requires a man to do only ½ the work.
The irony here is that chores are not shared 50/50. They are literally split in half. As in, I’ll do half of the chore and I’ll leave the rest for you to finish.
Sometimes it seems that he’s literally just run out of gas in the middle of doing something. Or perhaps his mind has just drifted to football games or Guitar Hero or maybe it’s just shut off completely like a computer that all of a sudden goes into sleep mode. The mind of a woman is always going, but a man can somehow just shut his off. I’ve never understood it but it’s true. Have you ever asked a man, “what are you thinking about” and he responds “nothing”…. Don’t badger him for a better answer… it’s likely true…he’s not thinking at all. Men have the unique ability to actually shut off their mental faculties and go into a battery conservation, sleep mode, while they are awake.
So, knowing that I cannot get him out of sleep mode without “pressing any button”, I have no choice but to “wake him up” by pushing his buttons… and we all know where that usually winds up (which is a different topic altogether). So for now, I’ll get back to his attempts at these chores..
Is he putting forth effort? Yes.
Should he be applauded for helping? Yes.
Should I want to kick him, every time I have to finish his chores? Yes. (oh wait…. I meant No!)
Should I reward him with a treat every time he completes a task… hmmmmm, I might be onto something here!?
More often than not, it just falls under the category of…”if you want something done right, just do it yourself”. And, who knows maybe that’s really what he was striving for all along!!!